Self vs. drowning parts in IFS

Best Practices for relating with emotionally burdened parts

Everyone, every Self, me included for sure, allows a burdened, reactive internal part to lead sometimes and express anger, depression or some other learned negative habit.

Such lapses of Self, when Self cannot unblend, or can’t unblend soon enuf, probably go with the human experience. You can’t eliminate these lapses; you can only minimize these lapses, as best you are able.

For those new to Internal; Family System (IFS), when an individual Self is un-blended with burdened internal parts, a healthy Self is able to express the Eight Cs: Calmness, Curiosity, Clarity, Connectedness, Compassion, Creativity, Courage, Confidence.

Since learning IFS, I continue opening to new ways to conceive of unblending my Self from my emotionally burdened internal parts. It’s beneficial to me to do this more often and more quickly. How about you?

Metaphor 1

One metaphor in support of us conceiving of Self’s dance with emotionally burdened internal parts is royalty, queenliness or kingliness. In this metaphor, a healthy Self sits on throne of our Eight Cs, making healthy choices and decisions. Self can only do this when unblended from (healthy dissociation from) emotionally burdened…